First things first, stop caring about what other people think. I know this is said so often, but like you actually have to do it in order for a difference to be noticed. Next time you are about to go through with something, but you hold back because of what someone else might think, just do it. Starting this blog page had me thinking about what people might think or say about me after reading it. You know what I said to myself? Fuck it. That’s exactly what I said. Everyone should say that, except for my younger sister, when they are doubting their own decisions.
Secondly, surround yourself with the right people for you. Hang around with people who make you happy, are like minded, and support you no matter what. Surround yourself with inspiring individuals, people who push you to be a better you, and don’t ever pressure you to be someone you are not. If you get bad vibes from someone, feel out the situation, and as soon your instinct is proven right, drop em’. You don’t have to be mean about, just simply have less of them in your life. You don’t have to like everyone, and not everyone has to like you. That’s how the world works. My brother told me that after high school, he went through his social media and removed people that he knew were not meant to be in his life. You bet I did that same thing right when he told me that. There is nothing wrong with this if you ask me. This is your life, and you get to decide who is and is not a part of it.
We all have different paths to follow. God gives everyone different gifts, and skills. This does not mean you HAVE to pursue what it is you are good at, but we all have options to choose from. College is not for everyone, yet I find that in today’s world, if someone doesn’t go, they are looked down upon. Who are we to judge anyone else though? That’s a topic for a different day I guess. Anyway, I don’t think we should ever feel like we MUST do something. You don’t have to get married when you’re older, you don’t have to do what your parents tell you is a good job, you just don’t. You do you fam. Keeping an open mind as we go through life is important because things change. Change makes life fun.
Another thing I think we could all start doing is stop envying others, and start taking part in the joy of those around you. If someone lands a dope job, and you have maybe a “not so great” job, do not envy that person. Instead, celebrate their achievement with them. This helps spread a positive energy. Those who share happiness with you in your accomplishments instead of sitting back and loathing you for them are the people you want in your life. Jealousy is a negative character trait. I know sometimes we all experience it, but next time you catch yourself feeling that way, stop and think. You’ll probably come to realize the negative energy I’m talking about. Spread love and positivity always. Life is better that way.
Sorry this is such a long one, but I had a great mom who taught me lessons that I think everyone needs to be reminded on once in a while.
I’ll end on this note. No one in this life is going to chase your dreams for you. You have to do it yourself if you really want it. If you read my ED story, you will see that I eventually left the professional nutritionist and psychologist because I finally woke up, and saw that it was all on me to fix it. If you don’t like your job, or your college major, or whatever you got going on in life, wake up. Wake up, and do something about it. Do not sit around and pity yourself. Say less, and do more. Do it for you, whatever it is. If you are passionate about something, do it. Do it full heartedly and results will come. You have to find your own happy, my blog post is not going to do it for you.
These are a few things that we should all try to do once in a while to create positive energy, and kindness.
- Compliment a stranger
- Take some “me” time
- Take action
- Complain less
- Pay it forward for someone
- Call a friend you haven’t talked to in a while
- Tell someone you love them just because
- Stop reading this, and start doing. Find that happy today!